In Good Hands

 

Like a good firm hand shake be someone who puts others at ease.

 

 

It was approximately this time one year ago when my family and I boarded a plane headed for China.  The reason we had flown half way around the world was so we could finalize the adoption of our youngest daughter, Lia, and subsequently bring her home.  

My wife, Amy, nine year old daughter, Sianna and myself knew this would not be a vacation, however we were pleasantly surprised to know God was along for the ride.  Over three years of prayer and much faith had brought us to China. However, you can prepare the best you know how, but on a trip like this you must place your trust and sometimes even your very life in the hands of others.

I believe God knew long before we ever arrived in China that we would need many special people to help us out on our journey. Here is the story of one of those special people we were so very blessed to have in our lives, if only for a week.  His name was Mr. Wong, a middle aged Chinese man with a big smile, a good firm hand shake and no idea how to speak English.  Yet his actions spoke directly into our souls.

Our initial meeting was nothing auspicious, but rather tense and uncomfortable.  It was the third day of our adventure when we arrived at the train station in Tianjin and were greeted by our translator, Linda and her driver, Mr. Wong.  We then proceeded to the parking garage where we were quite literally squished into the backseat of a Honda Accord.  This begged the question, where would our newest daughter, Lia sit the next day when we picked her up at the orphanage?

Consequently, Amy and I began to discuss what we should do next.  Since there was no other apparent option, I needed to address the situation. So, after a long pause, I asked Linda if she could relay our concern to Mr. Wong with the hope he could get a van for the next day.  In China doing such a thing could be misconstrued as arrogant, or possibly even dishonorable. 

  

Therefore with great reservations, I listened as she asked Mr. Wong my dubious question.  He said little, but seemed a little disturbed.  Before we got out of the car Linda gave us the impression that Mr. Wong would see what he could do.  Some men rise to the occasion when they are challenged and I was hoping Mr. Wong would not disappoint.

The next day with a big smile, Mr. Wong arrived at our hotel with a used van that had plenty of room to accommodate.  I was pleased.  Then, being the skilled driver he was, he weaved his way through the crazy traffic that is driving in China. You know the kind of traffic that makes rush hour in New York City look like a joke.  

  

Throughout the five days or so we spent together with him and Linda we grew to love this man’s company.  Many people we ran into were cordial, but not personal like Mr. Wong, who happened to be a grandfather.  He gave me the impression that he loved my girls almost as much as me.  He even went out of his way to talk to them. He made Lia feel especially comfortable by speaking in Chinese to her and treating both the girls with kindness.  On one occasion when Sianna’s luggage got caught in a revolving door he came running to her aide.   He even offered me a cigarette as a kind gesture one day. Security cannot be understated when you are half a world away from your comfort zone and often at times literally scared out of your mind. Mr. Wong made us feel safe.

My favorite Mr. Wong moment had to be the day He and Linda took us to a park that resembled Who-ville, taken directly from a Dr. Seuss book.  We had been having a tough time being in a smog filled city of eight million or so people.  We felt like we were out of sorts and out of our element.  Our newly blended family needed a day to catch our breath and relax.  During the day Mr. Wong rode on the rides with the girls when they need an adult and then carried Lia’s teddy bear in her back pack as we walked through the park.  It couldn’t have come at a better time and was just what we needed.

Knowing Mr. Wong and Linda was a shared experience that my wife and two girls will always cherish.  As we said goodbye at the airport Mr. Wong bought us a whole bag of special Chinese treats to remember him by.  Even now I can still see him.   There he is smiling, standing next to  Linda waving goodbye to us with tears in his eyes, till we could no longer see him. 

A cherished memory of how one person can make a difference.  God knew we were in good hands with Mr. Wong and I’m so glad he did. 

 

Kindness is a language we should all learn to speak fluently.

Swavel

Cracked Mug

Nothing lasts forever, however many of us live as if we are the exception to this rule.

 

Nothing lasts forever is far easier said than done.  Case in point, I use a ceramic Starbucks mug every morning to drink my coffee at work.   It is the perfect size that fits my hand just right and has become a part of my daily routine. The other ceramic mugs my kids gave me I display on my desk and use them sparingly, so as not to break them. 

Herein lays my quandary.  The other day while traveling through the hallway my mug suffered a most unfortunate turn of events; I dropped it. It was only a foot or so high, but it hit the floor.  Fearing for the worst, I looked for evidence that it was broken.  Upon a thorough inspection I did not find any evident cracks and thought I was in the clear. 

However, a few days later to my utter disbelief, I discovered a crack.  So, I did a quick acid test to see if it was still serviceable as I filled it with water and it held.  Then to make sure I filled it with coffee and microwaved it.  I discovered that it leaked slightly if I left it in too long.  So, although damaged I am still using it till it won’t hold anymore. 

Subsequently that crack has become my mug’s prized feature.   It is even become more symbolic to me than the Starbucks’ logo emblazoned on the side.  It reminds me of my humanness.  Newsflash--- my life is like a mug with a crack in it.  One day that crack will get the best of me and I will get put out of service. 

In my opinion, I believe we all have cracks or flaws because God wants them there, so He can get the glory.  Paul says in the Bible that he prayed to God and asked Him to remove a difficulty in his life, perhaps a flaw.  However, it was never taken away, so Paul just learned to rely on God all the more.

We are all flawed.  For instance, I can’t assemble anything to save my life.  Instructions look like gibberish to me.  For example, a few Sundays ago my friend, Dave offered to help me assemble my new propane grill that came with a fourteen step instruction manual.  Thank goodness he did help because I was starting to go into panic mode. However, with his help we had it assembled forty five minutes later.

Just to be clear having a crack like a mug is far different than being cracked like an egg.  For instance, the other day I accidentally dropped a bag which was holding a carton of eggs.  Although it was only a foot off the ground I made a mess breaking six of them and immediately had to throw them away. 

In life, I have come across people who feel as worthless as those cracked eggs and believe they have no value anymore.  Instead I believe we are more like a cracked mug that is still of great service.  The point being I will take my crack in my mug and learn to use my flaws, like Paul did to honor God.

Do your best and forget the rest, cracks and all.

Swavel

Making Good Sense

"I don’t like to make sense all the time.  Making sense is no fun." (My son quoting me on Facebook)

This blog is in response to the quote above that my son attributed to me weeks ago and then said, “I’m sure my dad can explain.”  So, here goes….

Just for the record, I don’t mind making sense, however, it tends to be a struggle. Saying whatever comes to mind tends to be what I naturally do. It's a struggle to censor everything I say. Here is an example of something I normally would say without being filtered:

Cows have best friends.  This conversation happened a few Saturdays ago when my family was having a game night where my nephew, Eric, was present. Consequently, I started the conversation off with this thought.

The quote "Cows have best friends," comes from a Christian radio host named Brant, who is known for saying random things. He stated that he had no point or agenda, just that he read this in an article and the survey was done by a college somewhere. It made sense to me, "cows have best friends" and when they are separated, they get lonely.  

Trees can talk to other trees. This is a little nugget that my nephew, Eric, shared with me; in response to my "cows have best friends" comment. He is a lot like his Uncle Aaron and tends to say what he is thinking, to which I related immediately. After I asked him to explain, he said that trees can communicate with each other through their root system. Trees talk to each other – how cool!

Cockroaches can live without a head. This is a cool, yet gross fact and how I responded back to my nephew, Eric, after the talking tree comment. Being an ex-exterminator this is a random fact I always have in my hip pocket. This is a fact that I heard repeatedly being an exterminator and people enjoyed sharing with me on the off chance that I was unaware.

Now it’s time to make sense again. Here is a list of personal things, not comprehensive might I add, that make sense to me:

Being a dad. A few weekends ago while I was at a WaWa convenience store, I saw a guy wearing a black hat with bold letters emblazoned on it. Expecting to see NYPD, instead I saw DAD. This makes sense to me that being a DAD matters and is so important that I better not screw this up.

Being a husband. This completely makes sense to me and has since the day I took my vows some twenty-four years ago. In my opinion, a man needs to lead, provide security, and love his wife without reservation. I am still learning, but my wife is worth the effort every single day. 

God knows better than I do.  A weekend or so ago, my family and I encountered something odd. We were walking along the beach, when everything turned considerably darker. It was so noticeable that we all commented on it. When we looked up, there was a lone cloud (a very thick cloud considering the light difference) covering the sun. In moments, the sun broke free. It made me feel quite small and so not in control. If God can create the world in six days, who am I to question Him and the power at His disposal.

So, back to answering the quote Jordan attributed to me. 

 "I don’t like to make sense all the time."  Paying attention to my every word takes considerable effort for me. However, with that being said, if I want others to take me seriously I must put in the time whether I like it or not. My history has been one of not being taken seriously and I believe that because I say what comes to mind. Simply put, as an adult I need to make sense more times than not.

"Making sense is no fun." This simply is a dumb statement that I made off the cuff.  I am working on putting my brain in gear first, before my mouth responds. However, old habits are hard to break and I’m still working on that. As my son reminded me the other night, just saying whatever comes to mind has it consequences. 

 

In closing, if I could retract what I said, this is what I would say instead:  Making good sense is always worth the effort.

Swavel

Cross References

Never forget that despite its difficulties, it is a privilege to carry the cross of Christ.

 

 

We all have moments when we lose focus. Recently this has been a struggle for me as a follower of Jesus.  According to Matthew 16:24 these are the requirements:  If any man will come after me he must deny himself, take up his cross and follow me.  It is easy to say, yet so hard to do. 

Just a few weeks ago on Friday, April 19^th my family and I had the privilege to volunteer at an Andrew Peterson concert, joined by special guests the band, Caleb.  The concert was held at the Shrine of St. Anthony’s, a place of solitude and serenity located in Ellicott City, Maryland.  Our job was to hang out in the lobby and represent Show Hope, an organization which helps orphans and also supports adoption.   

Although there for a noble cause I learned some very profound things I wasn’t looking to find. That night I observed three references to the cross given by a caretaker, a daughter’s mother and a singer. 

1-The cross reminds me to give my all to Jesus

The first person I met when we arrived was the curator, Joe.  Before the concert began he gave me a brief tour of the beautiful monastery where the concert was to be held.  While he showed me around he explained that St. Anthony’s was built in 1931 and was a replica of similar structure in Italy. It was during this time that he showed me the crucifix that at one time resided in Babe Ruth’s orphanage in Baltimore.  

In Joe I had met a man whose occupation consists of service.  He job is to help friars and monks who care very little about the outside world and its influences.  However, from what I could gather, he took some risk to bring a Christian Contemporary singer like Andrew Peterson into such a revered place. Conversely he never revealed to me why he brought Andrew to such a small venue, where only two hundred or so people could comfortably fit.  The only connection he mentioned seemed to be they were both from North Florida, which Joe told me more than once.

During the concert I snuck in the back and found an empty seat next to Joe.  No one seemed to be enjoying the concert more than he.  As we sat together my eyes caught something in the background in the dimly lit room, directly behind the band words were written boldly over an archway right over Andrew Peterson’s head.   God had framed it so the light captured this phrase like a snapshot:  May I never boast of anything but the cross…

There was more but that was all I could make out in the dim light.  Yet, it spoke volumes to me as I sat next to the curator I hardly knew and for reasons unknown to me was willing to take a chance and bring performers into a sanctuary that may be louder than what was appropriate. Yet he did it anyway.

 Joe reminds me to give it all, like Christ on the cross.

2-The need to lay it all down at the cross

Our contact for the evening was a perky young woman who works for Show Hope, who I will call Sandy. During the concert my wife and I began to chat with her as we shared about our two trips to China and her time there as well.

There was something endearing about her candor with folks she didn’t really know, except we were joined but the fact we all had a heart for the orphans. Sandy even revealed that her favorite color is mustard yellow, after my youngest daughter revealed hers was purple, Then, she began to reveal her heart and began to share about her mom.

Sandy's mom sounds like a truly remarkable person worthy of admiration, even though I have never met her.  Somehow through her daughter’s stories I feel as though I have met her.  She went on to explain that her mom had always wanted to travel, but never got the opportunity.  In essence she did travel vicariously through her kids.  One lives overseas, one lives on the coast, and her daughter has been to China.   Her cross was preparing her kids to do what she dreamed of doing and never got to do. 

This sacrifice reminded me of the movie, Passion of the Christ.  Each year at Easter I watch it looking for something new to take away from it.  This year what stood out was Mary, the mother of Jesus.  More precisely it was the scene with Mary kneeling at the cross while Jesus hung dying.  The pain in her eyes told me if she could have, she would have traded places with him or better yet taken him home.  Yet, she knew she could not have what she desired.  So, Mary laid down what she wanted in obedience to God the Father. 

Sandy's mom is a great reminder of what a mother will do for her kids and shouldn’t we all be willing to lay it all down at the cross for those we love.

3- The need to humbly bear our cross.

The first time I met Andrew Peterson two years ago left an indelible impression on me.  It was about eleven o’clock at night in a church parking lot as my family and I were leaving the concert.  There was Andrew Peterson singing cross legged on the sidewalk giving a free personal concert for a handful of fans who were still hanging around.  His actions reminded me of something Jesus would have done with his disciples.

On April 19^th I was reminded yet again of how followers should act like Jesus.  When Andrew spoke, at least to me, his voice sounded like someone who had been with Jesus. He reminded me of a modern day disciple, mind you not someone who had it all figured out. When he spoke and when he sang there was a special tone that came through that was entirely genuine.  It made my ears perk up, he wasn’t yelling at me; rather he was offering loving advice.  He even mentioned how he was tired of feeling guilty and that God was constantly out to get him. 

The fact he reminded me of a disciple was ironic because his name Andrew Peterson is comprised of two disciples’ names: Andrew and Peter and better yet they were brothers.  So, his name is quite suitable.

This time before the concert began I personally got to meet him.    It was through the privilege of loaning him my raincoat and holding the door for him during a rainstorm.  His demeanor was that of a humble man.   He did not ask someone else to get wet on his behalf, nor did he complain that my old raincoat was falling apart at the seams, which it was. He epitomizes for me what someone who bears his cross and follows after Jesus should look like.  Not someone chasing success but rather the Savior.

Through his refreshing honesty Andrew reminds us of the need to humbly bear our cross. 

When people see us, let out lives speak boldly these words: May I never boast of anything but the cross…..

Swavel

 

Honorable

Read stories to your kids when they are young and when you grow old your grandchildren will thank you for it.

 

The following is a story I wrote for my daughter, Sianna, when she was about seven years old, based on a character named Ninja Girl.

                                                           

                                                                

HONORABLE

It happened one night after bath time. 

Out of nowhere, she appeared in her unsuspecting brother’s bedroom.  “I am NINJA GIRL, she exclaimed, with her bathrobe flowing in the breeze and holding her sidekick, a teddy bear named Soft.  Her brother nearly jumped out of his skin as she struck a pose, like any good self-respecting ninja would do. Then he smiled, laughed, and finally hugged her. Ninja girl scowled.  “Ninja girls should bring terror, not happiness to their victims.” So, off she ran down the hall to pursue her next unsuspecting victim.

Then, it happened again.

Coming down the hallway she came upon Rex, the family dog.  "I am NINJA GIRL!" she exclaimed at the top of her lungs, as her bathrobe twirled in the breeze. Then Rex panted, barked, and licked her on the face; the dog version of laughing, smiling, and hugging. “Ninja girls should bring sheer terror to unsuspecting victims, not joy,” she said disgustedly. So, off she ran down the hall stomping her feet, while clutching Soft, in search of another victim. 

A few minutes later, it happened again.

She snuck into the living room where mom was snuggled up in her warm, fuzzy blanket checking her e-mail. Seizing the moment, she sprang into action as struck a pose and said, “I am NINJA GIRL!”  This time her bathrobe twirled a little less, while still clutching her sidekick, causing mom to turn with a start.  Mom smiled, then laughed and hugged her little girl. "You’re too cute," Mom replied.  “Ninja girls are not meant to be cute, they’re supposed to strike fear into your heart.” So, she ran out of the living room with her head down, with one last hope.

In the end, she discovered what she had been looking for all along.

Her last opportunity was in the kitchen. She held her breath and moved quiet as a mouse. That is where her dad was scooping ice cream into a cup making a homemade chocolate shake. Then she snuck up behind him, while holding her teddy bear, Soft, struck a pose and announced at the top of her lungs, “I am NINJA GIRL!”  Dad was so startled by all the noise that in mid-scoop, he flung some chocolate ice cream on the floor, and knocked Soft out of Ninja girl’s grasp. With one hand over his heart and a paper towel in the other, he took a deep breath. Then he smiled, then laughed and then he hugged his little girl. “Daddy, I am so mad, I want to be scary, not cute,” sobbed the disappointed little girl.

 

Pulling up a chair, dad motioned for his little Ninja girl to sit down. “Sweetie, let me tell you a not so ancient Chinese secret.” Pausing for a moment, he picked up her sidekick, Soft.“ If Soft could talk, he would tell you this: it is most honorable to leave a trail of happiness behind you not fear, laughter not tears, smiles not frowns, and hugs rather that emptiness.” Then Ninja girl smiled, then laughed and she bent over and picked up Soft and gave him a big hug. “Daddy, if Soft could talk I think he would ask you to make me a Ninja-sized chocolate shake.” With that, dad smiled and began to stir the ice cream. 

Now, go out and be honorable or Ninja girl will give you a karate chop!   Hi-Ya!!!!!

Swavel

Time Well Spent

Give everyday like it might be your last; one day it will be.

 

Author’s note: The following letter is written for my two youngest daughters, in honor of my eldest daughter, Alisha, who would be twenty today. 

Dear Sianna and Lia,

Once upon a time there was a girl who loved to give.

Since you will never get to meet your big sister here on Earth, I thought I would fill you in a little on her life.  If you recall nothing else from this letter, remember your sister as the girl who loved to give. 

We all will be remembered for something, good or bad, and in my opinion she lived seven years better than some live seventy seven.

Her name was Alisha Erin.

It was nearly thirteen years ago when Alisha Erin and I last talked on April 28^th, 2000.  She had just celebrated her seventh birthday the week before and was anxious to go to the local pharmacy with me while I ran some errands.  During our last true moment together I became her personal chauffeur and watched firsthand as she did what she loved to do most- GIVE.

She was a tornado in a dress.

She waited as best she could for me to finish my business, but the birthday money Alisha had just received was burning a hole in her pocket.  The main reason she had come was to buy some snacks for the evening.  Her smile let me know she was pleased with her purchase of chips and crackers, so we began our march toward the register.  I can still see Alisha with her pink purse belt strapped around the waist of her dress, as she skipped and danced her way to the checkout counter, like she was dancing with a tornado.

Alisha had brown hair and blue eyes.

After Alisha paid for the items something wonderful happened in her seven year old world; she received some quarters back in change.  With a big smile she asked me, “Daddy can we play the crane game?”  How could I say no to the girl with brown hair and blue eyes whose spirit and appearance was similar to my own?  We left the pharmacy and ventured to the neighboring department store lobby.  The crane game is a simple piece of equipment.  You insert a quarter, direct the arrows, push a button to make the crane drop and hopefully you end up with a load of candy.  “Play till you win”, the slogan read.  If only life were that simple.  As normal, Alisha took her time putting the quarter in to the game.

She had a deep, raspy voice.

After several near misses the crane hit pay dirt and she captured a piece of toffee.  It was a flavor I did not care for and secretly hoped she would eat it herself.  Then in the parking lot she asked me if I wanted the candy in her deep, raspy voice which I had to strain to hear.  At first I refused, but after noticing her frown I quickly changed my mind.  When I popped the horrid piece of toffee into my mouth I turned away so she wouldn’t see me grimace.  This would have a bitter after taste that would last for quite a while, but my heart was smiling.

She had an infectious giggle.  

Putting you kids to bed is a responsibility I cherish.  With that being said Alisha and I had a special bedtime tradition.   It was during these special times at bedtime that she had fallen in love with a particular story about a squirrel named Jimmy Joe Bob.   Jimmy was a little squirrel about Alisha’s age that had a problem; he never listened to his mommy and always paid the price.  These were silly stories at best, but in Alisha’s little world a good night was one story, a great night was two.  The premise of the story was quite simple as I used the stories to teach her the importance of obedience. Then, I would tuck her into bed and she would wrap her arms around me and tell me she was never going to let me go and she would let out this infectious giggle, while I tried to wiggle free.  

Alisha could be a little stinker at times. 

During our final moment together, after she had fallen into a deep sleep called a coma, it was only natural for me to share with her a Jimmy Joe Bob story.  Her heart and mine were soaring for one last magnificent time.  Her final bedtime story went a lot like this:  There was once a little girl who knew a squirrel named Jimmy Joe Bob.  They were best of friends and had a lot of great times together, but the time had come for the little girl to leave.   It was time for her to go and live with Jesus.”  Nothing happened.  So, I told her with tears welling up in my eyes,” Alisha, Jimmy thinks it is time for you to go.  It’s OK you can go now,” giving her my permission.  Yet, she stayed.  As she had done so many times before, I believe the little stinker was holding out for a second story, she wasn’t ready to say goodnight or in this instance, goodbye.

She loved the tooth fairy, hated the pain.

Then there is the story about the tooth, the last gift she personally gave to me. You are both now at the age when you can’t wait to hit up the tooth fairy for some loose change. Alisha was no different, except she hated the pain. In the weeks before Alisha died, she and I struggled to remove her last remaining front tooth. I would wiggle the tooth, she would scream, I would stop. This painful dance would happen over and over again, yet I couldn’t free the tooth.

Alisha had the best wrap around hugs.

A funny thing happened moments after I told Alisha her final bedtime story. One of the nurses approached me with a gift from Alisha, with her head down and her hand closed. As she opened her hand, there was that pesky tooth. To me it was like a wraparound hug, a big thank you from Alisha for letting her go.  Mind you, I would have much rather paid her the buck, the going rate in our house for a front tooth, but it was what I so sorely needed at that moment.

She loved to dance with her daddy. 

Alisha and I had another special thing we liked to do. Every time the credits rolled for the Disney movie, Tarzan, we danced while Phil Collins sang “You’ll Be in My Heart.”  The credits are that brief moment where you take a deep breath and replay all the highlights of the movie before you must re-enter life.  A funny thing about that song is that those are the last words I ever spoke to Alisha before she died. So, anytime I hear that song, You’ll Be in My Heart” on the radio or wherever  I am it reminds me that one day I will dance with her again, someday. However, this time I look forward to us all dancing in Heaven with Alisha, when we are altogether. 

Alisha’s life was time well spent.

This story is my gift to you from Alisha, so if you ever forget you now have a reminder.  Remember, like Alisha, make your life time well spent.

Love, your Dad

(Swavel)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lift and Move

Better to say little and do a lot, then say a lot and do little.

Before we turn the page on winter allow me to relay one last cold weather story. 

One bitterly cold winter morning, when I was about eighteen and attending a Bible School located in the Adirondacks of New York; my whole dorm was awakened by a hysterical roommate. Unbeknownst to me, I was about to learn a very valuable lesson.

As fate would have it, this roommate was the sound man for our meeting hall and when he went to open the back door of the hall he couldn’t get in. To his absolute horror, he had just discovered that all the entries were blocked from the inside by heavy, stackable wooden benches. Panic began to set in because in a few hours the entire campus would need to get in to participate in classes. 

Quite frankly it was a well-designed prank for the ages. The manner in which the unknown culprits kept us out was ingenious as they piled all the benches on top of one another creating a virtual wall. Then somehow, one of them, with the size and agility of a monkey, crawled up over the last bench and closed the door.

Faced with a major dilemma one of our dorm supervisors concocted a brilliant plan. If we pulled together, putting our anger and frustration to work, we could put the meeting hall back together in less than an hour. That way we could still make breakfast and no one would be any the wiser.  His thought was that if we acted quickly setting things right the other students would never find out about it and the pranksters would lose. The lack of a reaction would be our victory.

Fortunately, we had a few monkeys in our dorm as well and they were able to get up over the wall of benches and eventually remove some layers so the rest of us could climb up and over.  Once inside, the plan worked flawlessly as we all seemed to work together not complaining, hustling, lifting and moving. In about half hour the meeting hall was restored back to normalcy, like nothing had ever happened.

To the best of my knowledge no one ever found out who pranked our school. However, there was quiet satisfaction among those of us who knew the truth in knowing tragedy had been averted.  In essence, we turned the tables, aka the benches, on the pranksters.

Since I led with a cold weather story, now I would like to share a spring related one, more befitting of the weather. While at that same school later that same year, Steve, a fellow student who hailed from the Bronx, told me an interesting lesson he had learned thanks in part to a tree stump.

As the story goes Steve was clearing some brush for a friend, which required that he push a heavily loaded wheel barrow uphill on a narrow path. However, much to his chagrin, he was running into an unavoidable problem, which was a pesky tree stump, that was smack dab in the middle of the path. Every time he would make his trek he inevitably would hit the stump which would make his load capsize causing him to get furious. Try as he might the path always lead him to the same point where he would meet disaster.

If memory serves, eventually he bit the bullet and just applied the principle of lift and move and tore the stump out.  He was done talking about the problem and the situation needed to be resolved.  Further stated, no amount of talk would fix it, only delay the process.

To close things out, here is one last story. It comes from the Bible about Jesus. In the book of Luke there is a great story about a man who is paralyzed and what his friends did to help him.

Jesus, who was known for his healing many people who had been blind, deaf, mute, demon possessed or just beyond human help for their ailment, was in town.  He was teaching inside someone’s home and people from all over the country side crowded in to hear what he had to say. Since the paralyzed man could not walk it was impossible to get their friend though the mass of people in his condition. However, these men were going to stop at nothing till they got their friend to the only one who could truly give him the help he so badly needed.

I can only imagine how many times people had tried to comfort the paralytic man by telling him how sorry they felt for him. They may have even wished they could help, but then did nothing.  His friends on the other hand were men of action. They were not going to let a crowd, a full house and a roof stop them. So, without a moment to lose, they tore off the roof and attached ropes to his mat and lowered him down through the ceiling.

Seeemingly Jesus was so taken by this act of faith and persistence that these men displayed that he promptly healed the paralyzed man. The Bible says immediately the once paralyzed man got up, picked up his mat and walked home. When the man’s friends applied the principle of lift and move Jesus obliged and granted their request of a miracle.

In life, just like in the stories above, hard work and persistence tend to pay off more times than not.  So, when it comes time to take action, you better be lifting and moving.

You get what you pay for.in life, for example: talk is cheap and hard work is its own reward.

Swavel

 

What solely matters

 

Contrary to popular belief, to look cool on the outside does nothing to enhance who you are on the inside.

Here are a few examples of incorrect thinking concerning what solely matters:

During my high school years I had plenty of issues.   However, one of the biggest was the fact that I was a nerd and didn’t like that my shoes were not the latest fashion.  I had this false hope that if, somehow, I could get the sneakers that were in style, suddenly all my troubles would go away.

So, a few days before tenth grade, I went to the local shoe barn in search of that elusive resolution to being cool.  With my dad in tow, we walked in and worked our way toward the back, ducking under several pairs of fishing boots hanging in the aisle over head, till we found the sneaker section.  It was there that I discovered a pair of Nike canvas sneakers, with a beige swoosh and a rubber front and thought I just had to have them.   Accordingly, I debated with my dad making every logical argument I could because he was dead set against them since he felt they were too much and just not his style.  Who knows why, but eventually he changed his mind and got them for me.

To this day, I can still remember sitting in the den the night before school was to begin watching TV holding my new sneakers and just feeling cooler.  Unfortunately, the next day when I got to school no one seemed to treat me any better because now I wore a pair of sneakers with a swoosh on them.  The fact remained I may have been wearing cool shoes, but I was still a nerd, just wearing cool shoes.  Who I really was had not changed, I may have felt better, but that’s about it.

Another example of thinking something you can purchase can make you better is the Michael Jordan commercial from the 1980’s.  It’s the one where a young Spike Lee, aka Mars, is constantly questioning Michael Jordan throughout the thirty minute commercial trying to uncover what makes him the best player in the universe.  He asks if it’s his socks or his baggy shorts or haircut, etc.  Constantly coming back with the line, “it’s got to be the shoes,” to which Michael says, “no Mars.”  Ironically the commercial is suggesting that if you want to be like Mike, you need these shoes.   In essence Michael was right it’s not the shoes, but there were a lot of young men back in the day, who just had to have them anyway.

 Here are a few examples of correct thinking concerning what solely matters:

A more accurate account of what solely matters in life was set by another athlete, Michael Chang, one time French open winner.  Years ago, I heard a story about him when he chose to think of another over himself.  It was during a tennis tournament when he gave a pair of his own shoes to fellow athlete who was in need of them.  To me, Chang had a depth about him that defines cool; he chose to give of himself.  Rather than just trying to look good, he was seeking to do good for others.  If memory serves it was an deed that long out lived his career.

On a more serious note, just the other day I went to the viewing of a seventeen year old boy who had just months before been healthy.  He suddenly had contracted a mysterious disease, which later turned out to be a form of a severe immunodeficiency disorder and he went to be with Jesus last week.  However, when I was at his viewing I was encouraged that his parents, whom I had grown up with, had laid a shirt in his casket which read: This body is just a rental.  This young man and his family knew what solely matters in life and death.

Just the other day this same thought was reinforced as I was listening online to a pastor by the name of Francis Chan.  As he was speaking Francis made mention of a story on a similar vein about soul matters.  He said that he had a friend, Frank Pastore, an ex major league baseball pitcher for the Reds and now a national radio host, that was speaking about how our body is not as important as our soul. To get the full effect of his friend’s words he played the live audio.

Here is what he said in paraphrased form.  Frank was talking about how that his body was temporary and that his soul is the real him.  Then, out of the blue, he made a statement that if he were to drive his motorcycle home and get hit by a car and die that his real body would not be the one dead on the highway.  Hours later what he said, in jest, literally happened when he was hit by a car on his motorcycle and weeks later died from the pending injuries. Yet, Frank Pastore spoke the truth: that was just his body, his soul was with God.

Fashion aside, in the end, what solely matters is whether your soul is right with God or not. 

Swavel