Own Thing

It is one thing to do your own thing and altogether another thing to be you own person.

In today’s world we love to say make it your own or do your own thing.  The words sound so crisp, so invigorating and downright inspiring.  On a whole, our entire society has fallen for the idea of doing our own thing and the freedom it brings. 

With that in mind, the other week I was reading an article about a new fad.  It was about how some people, mostly women, enjoy wearing yoga pants as a fashion statement, but never attend a yoga class in them.  Claiming they are so comfortable they want to wear them all the time and not what they were designed for, which is to do yoga in them.   Even buying them at ninety bucks a pop at some stores literally making it their own thing.

If the truth be told, many of us make things are own.  Some people smoke a cigarette after they workout.  Some people wear wool winter hats in the summer. Some even go shirtless at sporting events when the temperature is below freezing.  Some wear black socks with shorts. Some wear hiking boots and flannel shirts and never go hiking.  The list goes on and on.

However, if I were to get introspective, I do odd things as well.

For instance, since I don’t go to bed early enough I make it my own and drink excessive amounts of coffee in the morning in order to stay alert. 

If I have a bad day I eat chocolate instead of exercising, yet both relieve stress, one in a healthy way and one not. 

Every day I compulsively carry a pen in my pocket, just in case I or someone else might need one.  This occasionally results in disaster when the pen is forgotten and goes through the washer and the dryer leaving a mess behind. 

The same compulsion applies with tissues during the winter which results in a mess throughout the wash looking much like a spider web.

Often, I don’t take the time to comb my hair choosing rather to wear a baseball hat. 

Sometimes sadly, I would rather watch sports than take the time instead to hear from God.  Can’t believe I said that, but it’s true. Heaven help me I’m a mess. 

It is my own belief that doing our own thing is a culmination of little habits we have grown accustomed to performing over a period of time.  These little actions then become a very part of the fabric of our lives. 

However, in turn, we should be careful not to allow our habits to replace our need to trust God with everything.  When left to our own devices the result is always disappointment and failure.  This makes sense since Proverbs speaks against this doing your own thing kind of mindset: “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death”.

With that being said, I believe it should be our goal in life to be well pleasing to God.  Now, that is something to strive for, rather than just trying to make myself happy and do my own thing.

When you do your own thing you may get what you want, but in the end not what you need.

Swavel

Trees Give Shade

Everyone needs a moment to clear their head and see things the way they truly are.

Let me start with this disclaimer and personal reminder to myself: you never stop being a parent.

In order for clarity to reign supreme in the story I about to relate, I must go back to last Thursday.  This was the day before I left to go on a flight from Philadelphia to Iowa so I could visit with my twenty three year old son over the Labor Day weekend.  

On that night my ten year old daughter decided to give me a picture she had drawn with magic markers on what I thought was an old scrap of paper.  During the weekend while in Iowa I discovered the picture in my suitcase and pulled it out to share with him.  Upon closer investigation I noticed my daughter had mistakenly colored over one of her sister’s old homework assignments.  Then when I looked even closer three words jumped out at me: TREES GIVE SHADE.  The phrase resonated so deeply in my thoughts that I immediately tucked it away in my mind to be used at a later date.

With that being said I boarded a plane on Labor Day after having had a great weekend with my son.  Feeling very melancholy and in a surreal state of mind my eyes felt like a camera lens, taking in everything I saw.  That feeling continued as I took a window seat on a commuter plane that was flying from Cedar Rapids, Iowa into the Windy City of Chicago as the sun set.

This is what my eyes roughly saw from that window seat during the last ten minutes before we landed:

“High above the Windy City what I clearly see is a string of brilliant white lights hung on a pitch black canvas.  In the night air it was as if God had hung them there for my eyes only to see.  Upon closer examination I discovered these were street lights that a knife had cut out holes into the darkness. Yet something seemed to be missing.

As I continued observing I was captivated by the traffic moving oh so gracefully in this magical world, miles below my feet. So beautiful was the dark canvas shrouded in light, that it reminded me of an electric train display does at Christmas time encapsulating a feeling of warmth and serenity. Much like the feeling a warm blanket provides on a cold winter’s night back home in Pennsylvania.

 Then it dawned on me what was absent.  Where are the trees that give shade?

Now, as I sit at my computer, my conundrum of unseen shade trees has become clear.  As a parent I realize I am a shade tree for my kids.  When they are younger it is like daytime and my belief is my job and privilege is to protect them from the heat and rain and give them shade and shelter with my branches.  However, as they grow older like my son has it becomes like night time and my presence becomes like my view of Chicago; I am still there like the trees, even though I can’t be seen.

It can be frustrating being a parent sometimes, leaving you feeling less useful. Nevertheless, my biggest hope is that my son remembers how much I love him and the girls, too when they grow up.  Although I cannot always protect them my prayers are always for them.

Like a good tree gives shade, you never outgrow your parents’ love.

Swavel

 

Yawn Away

Better to be tired from accomplishing everyday important things than to be wide awake and just existing.

By no means am I doctor, so take what I about to say with a grain of salt.  According to the Wall Street Journal yawning is good; it cools off your brain and keeps it at an optimal working temperature. Just saying that makes me feel so much better.  The reason being is I am a guy who gets up too early and does my fair share of yawning. 

Here are some believed to be true facts about yawning:

-People tend to yawn when they see someone else do it.

-Tends to occur more in the summer.

-A yawn can keep our brain alert during stressful situations.

-Air conditioning can cause yawning to decrease.

- Yawning can occur as often in the AM as in the PM.

-The typical yawn last about six seconds.

 

It is also a fact that people yawn at the strangest times.  For example, people about to make a speech or a parachutist about to jump out of an airplane or Olympic athletes about to compete have all been caught yawning.

Yawning has always been an annoying habit I can’t seem to shake. Seems to me I must do it every night, despite how much I fight it.  If I am really tired I even do a strange air puffing thing instead of a yawn. 

People seldom look at yawning as a good thing; rather a cue that they are boring or that maybe they should leave now. So, the other day when The Wall Street Journal considered it a good thing I took this as encouraging news. If for no other reason that one of my faults can be explained by the fact that at least I am using my brain.

Now, I know this sounds foreign to most of us because yawing seems like an indicator and it very well may be.  But in my opinion, many times yawning is a good indicator that we are trying to do too much or have done too much and it’s just time to call it quits for the night.

One last thought on yawning or any habit people have that annoys us.  Maybe we should put ourselves in their shoes before we judge them because who knows what crazy life they may be living. Remember, people could do a lot worse than annoy you, just watch the evening news.

What a concept: as you yawn away you are air conditioning your brain.

Swavel

 

 

Whisper Loudly

The world’s best offer doesn’t need the world’s best salesman to validate it. 

Who or what should matter most in my life?  The answer I came up with is one word and five letters long: JESUS.  Now, I’m not attempting to be deeply religious here, because that would be an epic failure.  However, it is often been said it is not what you know, but who you know.

Here are few examples.

Once I was talking to a friend of the family who had just under gone life threatening surgery.  As they wheeled my friend away on a gurney to the operating room the only word she uttered was JESUS.  It was a very simple approach, but a very effective one.  Since she was a believer, no matter the outcome it’s was a win-win.

Another time I was killing bugs at an elderly lady’s house. As I was walking by a cluttered desk  in her pantry I saw these words:  Only what’s done for Christ will last.  That profound message that I read some ten years ago still whispers loudly to my soul today.

Lastly, there’s the story about the renowned author and Holocaust survivor, Corrie Ten Boom.  At her funeral, she gave specific instructions to the pastor that he should not make any eloquent speeches about her life, but rather to speak about the love of Jesus. It was obvious from what I have read about Corrie that she loved Jesus more than anything else in the world.  Corrie Ten Boom’s life personified this verse from First Corinthians:  “I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and him crucified.”

Sadly at times, my life has been a pitiful example of Christ.  Nevertheless, it is a deep desire of mine to point some to Him, despite me.  I t always has been about Jesus anyway; even my brokenness can’t ruin that. 

Whisper Jesus loudly with your life and then get out of the way.

Swavel

Prepaid

No need to panic because every now and then we all feel like Amelia Bedelia

“I can’t believe I just did that.”  That was my first thought when I prepaid for fuel at gas pump # 6 the other week at the local mini mart, only to discover an hour later I had forgotten to fuel up.  My mind had simply revolted as it was a classic case of being over tired.  After an extra-long day at work I had gone into the gas station with coffee on my mind, prepaid for the gas, jumped in my car and zoomed off toward home. 

It is always best, no matter how dumb we can feel sometimes, to try and learn from our mistakes.

So here goes, 6 THINGS I LEARNED FROM PUMP #6:

1-Don’t be defined by dumb.  Just don’t let yourself to go there.  Moments after I realized my transgression my ten year old daughter, who was in the car at the time, offered up this advice, “Dad, it’s not the end of the world.” The fact is she was absolutely right.

2-Foolish things have value.  This is something I love about God.  The Bible says that God likes to use the foolish things of this world for his benefit.  My perceived foolishness reminds me that without God I can nothing and he can redeem even the silliest thing I do. 

3- Could be worse.  That same night I was listening to the Phillies ‘game on the radio when I was making the drive back to the gas station.  Pitcher Cliff Lee had just thrown a pitch when he started shaking his head and pointing at his elbow. Seconds later the trainer came out and Lee was done for the night and is now on the disabled list.  At least my inconvenience didn’t cause me any physical pain.

4-Fess up as soon as you can.  People lie way too much and often I think when you tell someone the truth it refreshingly catches them off guard.  When I called the gas station I identified myself as pump#6 and then admitted it was my entirely fault.  In response they were very gracious and allowed me to come get the fuel I had prepaid for hours earlier. 

 5- Keep the receipt.  It is always good to have proof that you did what you said you did.  It also gave me creditability with the gas station if necessary. People would like to take your word for it, but nowadays we just don’t know everyone we come across anymore.  Documented proof keeps everything on the up and up and keeps people from yelling less.

6- I’m grateful for the ultimate pre-pay. Now, I know what I did the other day can sound rather silly, but bear with me.  There are so many of us who are driving along in life with tanks that are on empty.  All we need to do is trust Jesus with our lives because He is the ultimate pre-pay.  Jesus prepaid on the cross some two thousand years ago for our sins and all we need to do is cash in on it, by repenting and following him.

A full tank of gas is nice, but it is better to be full of grace to others along life’s journey.

Swavel

 

 

 

 

 

Go Green(e)

 

Greatness of character is always something to be cheered.

It’s about time. That’s what I thought when I read that the Pittsburgh Steelers are going to retire Mean Joe Greene’s # 75 this season. This is big news especially since the Steelers have not retired a number in over fifty years, simply because that’s not the Steeler way.  They couldn’t have picked a finer human being to make an exception for  than one a coach once described as a fort on foot.  

With all due respect going green and helping the environment is a noble thing.  However, even more noteworthy is when people take difficult situations and poor behavior and turn it into something good. Take Mean Joe Greene for example.  For when it comes to being a man of great character I believe he can teach us how to Go Green(e) :

1-Have grit

Joe Greene was the very definition of grit and determination coming out of a small school in Texas in 1969.  The Pittsburgh Steelers saw promise in him and drafted him fourth overall much to his dismay because he knew the Steelers were a losing organization. 

However, the Pittsburgh faithful were not quite sure what to make of the 6-4, 275 pound mountain of a man.  Days later a newspaper headline read posed this question, Who’s Joe Greene?  Mean Joe, who was a rare combination of a defensive player who was both mobile and hostile, answered that question with a resounding Hall of Fame career and a relentless pursuit to be the best. 

2-Make others better.

From every article and interview I ever read or heard about him Mean Joe hated to lose.  He also made his intentions very clear to those around him in the Steelers’ locker room.  Early in his career this was detrimental, however his insatiable desire to be the best seemed to be contagious as was proof in the Steelers four Super Bowl wins.

3-Pick others up.

The picture that best illustrates Joe Greene is the one above of him single handedly picking up an injured teammate.  Greene performed this merciful act during a playoff game in the early seventies when wide receiver, Lynn Swann, was knocked out cold by devastatingly brutal hit from an Oakland Raiders’ defender. 

 Joe said later he did it so the team didn’t have I had to waste a time out on Swann.   However, it seemingly inspired Swann so much that he played two weeks later in the Super Bowl and was the game’s MVP. 

4-Be excellent. 

Mean Joe was twice named NFL defensive player of the year, was a ten time pro bowler and was named to the NFL and Pittsburgh Steelers All Time Team.  Not to mention he was also suitably inducted into the Pro Football Hall of Fame.

Number Seventy Five was a special player who had the unique ability to take over a game when needed, making him nearly unstoppable.  For instance, Greene once had five sacks in one game against the Houston Oilers which propelled the Steelers to victory and the playoffs that year.  

5- Learn gentleness.

Greene had many great attributes, but unfortunately all heroes have flaws and his poor sportsmanship was his weakness. Especially in his younger years, Greene lived up to his moniker, Mean Joe.  The notorious list included getting kicked out of games in high school, spitting on Dick Butkus,  kicking a Cleveland Brown offensive tackle, and  snapping a football prematurely while the other team’s offense was setting up to run a play.

Then in 1979, he made a sixty second commercial that allowed the world to see him in a gentler and kinder light.  To this day the iconic Coke commercial when Joe Greene throws his jersey at the kid who gives him a Coke still has to be one of the best. Greene showed us it’s never too late to change.

The best way to Go Green(e) is to turn you anger into kindness.

Swavel